This post was originally shared on July 20, 2014
I recently read a blog that asked the question, “What didn’t you know about marriage before you got married?” I thought that was such and interesting question.
What didn’t I know? What have I learned about marriage since being married?
Here are 35 Things I have Learned from Marriage:
1. A Happy Marriage is hard work.
2. A man could own more shoes than me.
3. I could fall out of love with my husband.
4. I could fall back in love with my husband over and over again.
5. Hair shavings in the sink could drive me to near insanity.
6. How easy it is to hurt someone you love.
7. How hard apologies can be to give.
8. How important sincere apologies are.
9. That “Til Death Do Us Part” is no small feat.
10. How miserable marriage can make you feel.
11. How blissfully happy marriage can make you feel.
12. I would, sometimes, question whether or not “Happily Ever After” really exists.
13. That I am stronger than I ever thought.
14. That I could feel so much passion 18 years into marriage.
15. That the sound of coffee slurping would bring me to the point of wanting, desperately, to hit something.
16. Our differences over what furniture to buy, would lead to a public and embarrassing display of me losing my mind.
17. He would be so opinionated about how to load the dishwasher.
18. That I would find his opinions so irritating.
19. Seeing him succeed could mean more to me than my own success ever would.
20. I would lose myself.
21. Losing myself sounds romantic, but really just leads to me feeling lost.
22. Staying connected to each other would be challenging.
23. Time alone with my husband would be scarce and sacred time that I will go to all lengths to find.
24. That I could truly love him more now than the day I married him.
25. I could be so mean.
26. I could depend so heavily on someone else.
27. Intimacy plays a vitally, and I mean vitally, important role in a successful marriage.
28. I would still have to date my husband.
29. That our arguments over money would never stop.
30. Love really can grow.
31. Learning to communicate with my husband would be a never-ending challenge.
32. Having kids would change everything.
33. That, at 41 years old and after being with the same person for 26 years, I could still feel like a teenager in love.
34. That I can’t change him.
35. I have a choice.
I could probably go on and on about all that I have learned so far, but I want to hear from you.
What Lessons Have You Learned From Marriage?
Tammy
Married and Naked
Yes x 35!
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Love these lessons! I definitely love that you say marriage is hard work. I think so many people do not understand that it takes constant work and it isn’t always easy.
I’ve learned that your husband needs to know his role is vital and you could not do it without him. I’ve learned that even if you can do it better, even if he lets you because he is busy or sick, don’t take his tasks, duties or roles away from him. He too can become lost.
Great thought Carolyn. Men need to feel that they are providing and that they are vital to the relationship. Good point!
Yes yes & yes to all of these comments!!!
17& 3/4 th years in.
That you can became total strangers under one roof instantly. That it takes a a lot of courage to be the one to end the silos espeacially when you believe you nt the one that’s has wronged. That ultimately one of you need to step up and move your marriage out of the enstranged zone.
It is true that it often takes one spouse to be the energy that pushes the marriage toward creating the change it needs in order to survive. Nice lessons.